
As Father’s day creeps closer and closer, I’m thinking about weather or not I should do something for my dad. I know, I know, he IS my father, and it IS father’s day, but it’s just not like that. Well….I’m not like that. See, me and my dad don’t have a good relationship. We never did. When I was like 12 years old, him and my mom got divorced. From then on, my dad basically decided he didnt want anything to do with my mom, me, and my two brothers. We lived 2 states away in poverty, while he was going on cruises and having the time of his life. I had to steal food so I could make my family dinner. It was bullshit, and I hold grudges. It’s not something I choose, or like, but it’s just how I am. I’m the middle child, as well as the first to graduate high school. My dad was visiting his sister the same week as my graduation ((which lived halfway between where I lived and where my dad lived)). Needless to say, he didn’t make my graduation. But my older brother did, which he lived right near my dad, and he spent all the money in his bank account to make my graduation. This time again, my dad pissed me off. This I will never forget. It hurt me so bad, that my own father didnt show up to my graduation. I wanted so bad to make him proud. That was the last time I ever felt that. I continued to try and be the bigger man, and call him frequently, and try to meet up. But he was always too busy with his own life, and the only time he called, he would just brag about how good he was doing, and the next vacation he was taking. Then without asking how I was doing, he would say, “well im home from work now, later”. CLICK.. So he just wanted someone to brag to about his life, while he drove the boring 15 minutes home from work. There is no need to paint any clearer of a picture about the kind of non-dad I have. I dont even need to mention how he paid 0% of my college tuition ((which I am in collections for over $5,000 still)). Or how he sued my mom after my little brother decided to wait 1 semester to go to college. He’s just ignorant.
I really dont want to ever talk to him again, not after I have tried and tried and tried to have a good relationship with him, and he just acts like a moron. But I dont really want him to think I forgot Father’s day either. I think I should find a way to make it apparant that I remember Father’s day, just not get him anything.
What do you think I should do? Please leave a comment below and give me some advice, I could really use it.